Six Differences Between a ‘Thin’ Person and You (‘Thin’ aka Healthy Relationship With Food)
Six Differences Between a ‘Thin’ Person and You (‘Thin’ aka Healthy Relationship With Food)
Today we’re talking all about the differences in thinking between somebody who struggles with their weight and somebody who appears to have no worries about their weight whatsoever. I will go through those differences and give you the opportunity to see about shifting your own mindset to that of a 'thin-thinking' mindset. The Law of Attraction states that whatever you think about you bring about so if you’re constantly thinking about not being fat, not being overweight, worrying about what you’re eating, then fat, overweight and worry about food is what you’re going to get more of. Let’s get you thinking thin and not even having any of those things on your radar as well!
For those of you who don’t know me, I am Leila Hardy. I am your online holistic health and life coach. Nothing gives me more pleasure than to be able to share with you the power of things like Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT), hypnotherapy, energy healing, and combining the power of all of those so you can have the ultimate health - the health, the wealth, the happiness, the success that you desire by any stretch of the imagination.
As I mentioned, the Law of Attraction is a big thing in this subject, so I want you to embrace the whole ‘what you think about you bring about’ perspective as you walk through this with me. As we go through thinking about switching your thinking from what you’re worrying about because the more you focus on, the more time you spend with those things, the more things you will have to think about - things that are going to free you from anything that’s holding you back with your weight, with your self-image and all of those things.
What I want to make clear is that this isn’t necessarily a thin person that I'll be referring to. Yes, they may be slim, they may be thinner than you are and you might look at them and think that they are thinner, but ultimately this is a 'thin-thinking' person who has a great healthy relationship with food. The reason I say that is because lots of people look at other people who are thin and they think, “they’re just thin” or “they’re lucky” or “there is a magic trick” or they are doing something that you don’t know about or they’ve got good genes. But there is just so much more to it than that.
They think differently.
They act differently.
They are wired differently around food and they just have a different relationship with food.
It’s really powerful to understand that actually, this is available to you. This isn’t a magic thing that you don’t know about. This isn’t all about genes. There is no secret. This is all available to you and what you need to do is to be able to embrace a change of thinking, a change of mindset. When you can do that, then you have opened yourself up to the whole opportunity of having the body image you want, the confidence you want, the health you want, the happiness you want, the weight you want, and everything else that means to you.
1. Thin-thinking people eat but then they totally forget about eating. They totally forget about food. They feel that hunger feeling, eat something, they are satisfied by the food, and then they just forget it. Just like you would go to sleep at night and when you’ve had eight hours of sleep or however long sleep you have, you wake up in the morning and then you don’t go through your day going, “I wonder when I’ll next go to sleep. I wonder when I’ll next go to bed.” It’s not even on our mind until bed time to go back to bed and go back to sleep. It’s really powerful to have that same shift of thinking in the way you would have a relationship with food as well.
It’s available to you to start to switch your thinking into having a meal, enjoying it, and then going, “Okay, I’m done.” And then not thinking about it again until you’re ready to eat or prepare your meal. A great way of putting a plan for that in place is to plan your meals because then you do have the opportunity to not have to be thinking, “What are we going to be having for lunch? What are we going to be having for dinner?” Because it’s already in the fridge already prepped. It may already be in the freezer if you batch-cooked. Or you have all the groceries in and you haven’t got to think about planning it. It gives you that opportunity to make it automated. You eat and totally forget about eating or food until the next time you’re ready to eat again.
2. Thin-thinking people don’t think about food until their belly tells them they’re hungry. It’s like they have a full button that when it’s full it just goes on slow release. Whereas when you have issues with your weight, with your relationship with food;
a. You may never reach a full button.
b. You may reach the full button but actually within minutes you’re ready to eat something else.
c. You may reach a full button but there’s always room for dessert.
That gives you all those battles which means you are consistently thinking about it even though you’re not hungry, even though you may be full. You’re ignoring those body signals that your body is providing to you, or if you haven’t had a healthy relationship with food for a long time, chances are you may not even feel those signals. You may not even be aware of them because they have been ignored for so long. That’s the difference between thin-thinking people, people who have a great relationship with food, and people who struggle with their image.
And I speak from experience when I say that. Food was always on my mind. When you have that opportunity to start to think about putting things in place that help you to reduce what you’re eating so your stomach starts to feel those full feelings, you’re able to fill your body with great foods - the four R's; Raw, Recognisable, foods which Roam or grow, foods that Rot, which are great nourishing foods that are going to fill your body but they also are a great source of fiber which fills your stomach and allows you to slowly release that energy. They allow you to have the great opportunity to be able to forget about food and to give yourself and trust that your stomach, your body is going to be giving you all the messages it needs to give you when it needs to give them to you.
3. Thin-thinking people know and sense intuitively that food is for survival; it’s not for pleasure. It is serving a purpose which is giving them an opportunity to live and to survive and have energy. And as they do that they then have the opportunity, the freedom, and the liberation to literally see food as serving that purpose. Somebody who struggles with their weight or their self-image or their relationship with food may be using food for other purposes such as pleasure, stress relief, emotional release, bottling things up, protection, and so there are so many other purposes that food is providing for them that actually take away from its sole purpose which is survival- to give you that opportunity to feel nourished, feel provided for, and to boost your immune system. What you put in your body has a powerful effect on your immune system. When you can start to see food as your means to survival and start to step away that pleasure that you are attaching to it or other purpose that you’re attaching to it, then you are able to start to detach and break away from what feels emotional or what is serving another purpose with food and what you need to understand about food and how it helps you to survive and stay well and stay healthy and nourished and balanced.
4. Thin-thinking people eat what they like. But what generally happens quite naturally and organically is that 80% of the time they will eat and crave and are drawn to healthy foods and 20% of the time they will indulge. The difference is that they’re not really conscious of that. The main difference is the fact that this is a type of programming that’s going on in their mind. They’re free from limiting beliefs, free from self-sabotage, free from those things that are making them conscious of their weight, and they just naturally eat 80/20. It gives them that opportunity to be able to fuel their body in a really efficient way, feel satisfied because they’re eating healthy 80% of the time, but they’re able to eat what they like and that’s exactly what they do. So often 80% of that is the four Rs- foods that are recognizable, foods that roam or grow, foods that you can eat raw, and foods that will rot very quickly. Naturally, that fuels your body. You can fill a plate up calorific-wise. You could eat a plateful of all of those 4 R's, but actually if you were to have the same amount of calories in the processed foods or a ready meal, you’d probably have a quarter if not less than that for the same amount of calories, not to mention the fact that there’s less nutrients in there as well.
5. Thin-thinking people stop when they feel full. They start to notice that moment when they think, “Oh, I could just have a breather” and they stop. The big difference between that and somebody who has an unhealthy relationship with food or is conscious of their weight is that quite often they will push through those full signals and they will continue eating. Even if it’s not eating the whole meal, they will still push through some of those signals. Your full button is like a muscle; the more you learn to use it and trust it, just like your intuition, the stronger it gets. I urge you to take your time when you’re eating so you can allow yourself to be mindful and present enough to be able to feel when that full signal starts to emerge. And when that starts to emerge that’s your signal to take a breather, have a glass of water or a few sips of water and give yourself a window of time to see if actually this is the full signal or you are able to eat a little bit more. It breaks it down. It stops it from being so interconnected all the way so you can ignore it. You’re taking time to acknowledge the full button may be there and you’re taking time to acknowledge that this may be the full signal that allows you to leave some food on your plate, stop the meal where it is, and be able to feel good about doing that as well. It’s really important to listen to your body in that respect.
6. Thin-thinking people have no guilt or shame before, during, or after they eat. They don’t even think about the fact that there may be something emotional around it. That is such a huge difference. Just think about the weight, the heaviness of guilt and of shame, of punishment, of judgment. When we look at this in an emotional and energetic level, you’re literally weighing yourself down if you have issues around your self-image, your relationship with food, your weight. You are weighing yourself down with emotional and energetic weight. That in itself is creating an issue because it’s making it harder to lose weight, it may be making it difficult for you to find the motivation to do the things you want to do. It’s leading to all of those other ones that we’ve just talked about.
The biggest difference is that they have no self-talk around this. They might have their 80/20 and 20% will be a pudding when they go out or something they fancy but they don’t give it a thought. Whereas on the other side of the coin you have the, “Oh, no; I’ve done this. Now I’m going to have to run an extra 30 minutes. Now I’m going to have to skip breakfast.” All of those weighty comments, self-talk, and thoughts that go on.
The key thing to switch that around is to release that shame and guilt around having 20% of the food being indulgent foods, foods that feel like a treat, and making that not so much as a treat but as just part of your normal life - so familiar, so normal. The key thing to release that is to release the self-sabotaging and beliefs that are going on behind the scenes in the subconscious because that is what starts to drive that self-talk around the guilt, the shame, the judgment, the punishment before, during, and after having an 80/20 way of life eating.
I think one of the big key things is that thin-thinking people, people who have a great relationship with food are generally fairly accepting of their body image and their body shape. They are aware but not totally aware that their weight will fluctuate. Because actually, fluctuating weight is quite normal within reason and with a perfectly healthy relationship with food, it’s never a concern for them because they know that’s normal. Normal is fluctuating between 0-4 pounds, about 2 kilos; it’s quite possible depending on what’s going on in your body, what time of the month it is and this gives you that freedom not to be weighing every day, every week, every month. In fact, thin-thinking people probably don’t even go on the scales. That’s a key thing to remember because it all applies to guilt, shame, judgment, and non-acceptance.
When you can really switch your thinking into accepting your body shape, your body image, you give yourself that freedom to be able to explore what it feels like to be a thin-thinker, to really think in these ways:
· Eating and totally forgetting about food until the next time your meal is ready.
· Eating when you’re hungry- listening to those hunger signals.
· Using food for survival and giving yourself the opportunity to be the fittest in that survival. Give yourself the great foods, the foods that are going to fuel you- fuel your immune system, your digestive system, your metabolism, everything in every sense of the word. Allow yourself to release the other purposes that food might be serving for you- stress relief, emotions, releasing any of those other protection issues. Any of those other roles and purposes that food might be serving for you, let them go.
· Eat the 80/20 way. Give yourself the opportunity to crave great foods, be drawn to fabulous foods that are going to serve you really well. 20% of the time you are allowing yourself to eat incredibly amazing treats or foods that feel indulgent for you. But it is part of normal life; it’s actually not an 80/20 rule.
· Stop when you feel full.
· Have no guilt or shame before, during, and after eating anything let alone the indulgent things.
If you look at people who are thin and they are eating rubbish a lot of the time - they’re eating processed foods, they’re not eating healthy – and you observe that, all may not be what it appears on the outside. They may not be as lucky as you might be thinking. Because often when people don’t have the fat that’s moving onto the outside of the body, it’s being stored somewhere on the inside of the body - an internal organ, there may be excess cholesterol, their blood sugar may be being affected, and things like that. It’s not all what it appears to be.
Give yourself the opportunity to lose the comparisonitis and start looking at your own path to be able to look at what is going on for you in your life. Look at thinking about all of the things that you can think about that will empower you, strengthen you, allow you to have an amazing relationship with food rather than focusing on what you don’t want, what’s worrying you, what’s making you anxious about your weight, your emotions or your feelings that connect with food, your relationship with food and how you look at yourself. Give yourself that opportunity to really break away from some of those old habits, those old thoughts, those old feelings, those old mindsets, and allow yourself to paradigm-shift into these new ones. The new ones may feel really different to you but they are exciting.
Spend some time just writing down what it feels like to be able to eat and then completely forget about eating. Try journalling on these prompts:
- How would it feel to do that?
- How would it feel to see food as a source of survival and eating as a method of survival?
- How would you feel for you to be able to survive as a survivor of the fittest?
- How would you fuel your body in order to be able to do that?
- How would it feel to feel that full button and give yourself that opportunity to sample and imagine and visualize what it would feel like to be a really healthy, empowered eater who throws food away, has no guilt, no shame about having the odd indulgence, and just absolutely knows that every day in every way you’re moving towards strengthening your body? You’re moving towards serving your body, boosting your body, energizing your body, and fueling your body in the most incredible ways.
- How would it feel?
Don't hesitate to reach out to me to share your journalling prompts on this. If you require extra support to switch your thinking and your relationship with food, then you can book a call with me to discuss how we can do that together!