What Do You Have to Lose?
What Do You Have to Lose?
Hey! I wanted to kick-start the week with giving you a little bit of food for thought really!
I want to ask you,
“What is it you want to lose? What have you got to lose in terms of whether it is anxiety, aches and pains, or weight?”
I would love to know what it is that you want to lose because we have some really big goals in our health and in our happiness, don't we?
That often involves wanting to drop a dress size or wanting to lose something; weight, self-doubt, procrastination etc., or wanting to change something or even wanting to have something that you haven’t got yet.
I want to remind you to choose your words wisely, because we often, if not all of us, to some extent have some kind of negative connotation to the word ‘lose’ or ‘loss’.
Whatever that connotation is, is subconsciously deeply rooted inside of us, so whenever we say, “I want to lose weight" or "I want to experience weight loss and my goal is…" or "I want to lose my anxiety” our subconscious mind will react with something along the lines of, “Hang on! I remember when we lost something or someone and it was so painful and your heart was broken. Everyone around you was sad.”
Therefore, your mind will try and make it as hard as possible for you to lose that thing you have set yourself as a goal in order to stay safe, to make you think that it’s making you happy or keeping you happy by maintaining the status quo.
When you have some kind of pain attached to losing someone or losing something or feeling lost in some way, then whenever you start to say, “I want to lose my anxiety or I want to lose my aches and pains or I want to lose this weight”, your brain will do its utmost to make sure that does not happen.
How can you overcome this?
Instead of thinking that it’s going to be painful in some way on a subconscious level, you have to start creating a connection to pleasure for achieving that goal.
To do that, switch it around, you can start to use some empowering words - "I am transforming my health", "I am dropping weight", "this anxiety is sliding away from me", "depression is slipping away", 'I let go of these aches and pains'.
Start to use different descriptive words other than ‘lost’ or ‘lose’ or ‘losing’, but also start to switch to what you do want as opposed to what you don’t want any more of. Empowering words like becoming more confident, feeling lighter, feeling happier, noticing that you’re becoming thinner; start to switch to the positive and what you do want as opposed to what you don’t want any more of.
As you do this you are then starting to create some new connections, new neuro pathways, that your brain will start to ignite the actions that take you to those results.
What is it that you have to lose?
What is it that you want to lose right now?
Have a thought for how your mind may be connecting that in a very old programmed negative way.
Spare a thought next time you start to say, “My ultimate goal is weight loss” or “I want to lose weight” or “I want to lose my depression” etc. because every time your mind hears ‘loss’ it doesn’t know that that is something you are attaching to a positive thing ultimately.
All it hears is the word ‘loss’ and it goes back to the filing cabinet to find out where any other time a loss was experienced, how it felt.
What was the experience? What happened in that memory or that connection?
If it’s not pleasant then your mind will try and steer you away from that so you don’t get a repetition of that experience over and over again.
It will do its utmost and you might see that in the form of lack of motivation, lack of willpower, self-sabotage - knowing that you need to get out of the house to get some fresh air to boost your vitamin levels, to boost your hormone levels, or to help with your aches and pains, but sitting on the sofa still and not getting out of the door. It will literally pull reigns down on you to make sure you don’t do what it is that you know you really need to do.
Next time you feel like that might be happening, next time you start to talk to somebody about what it is that you want to lose, and you are applying that to your health and happiness goals, just take a moment to rethink and switch your language around. Instead of ‘losing’ or ‘lost’ you can say, “I’m letting go of weight. I’m letting go of these feelings of anxiety. I’m letting go of feeling depressed. I’m letting go of these aches and pains. They are slipping away. They are easing away. They are sliding away.”
Whenever you want to describe it as an ‘away-from’ goal, change the language and start to switch it to what you do want which is feeling more confident, feeling lighter, being more active, really choosing to eat healthy foods, really opting to get fresh air. Make it really powerful, super-charged, and positive.
If you have any questions regarding what it is that you tell yourself when it comes to what you want to lose on a regular basis and let go off, then let me know what they are.
I hope this has helped in some way in kick-starting your week to just make you think a little differently on a much deeper level to create those changes that you want to have on the physical level as well.